Have you ever been mad at someone, so mad that you feel obsessed with that person? You end up analyzing all their flaws and convincing yourself that they are the most despicable beings in the universe?
I am not talking about the Holy Indignation that we feel when we realize that someone is acting in bad faith: that is a normal defence of the moral laws that rule our society.
What I mean is that feeling of rejection that leads us to hate certain people, because, according to our judgment, they represent the devil itself. It’s a towering rage that holds us prisoner and keeps our mind busy, preventing us to move ahead: it wraps our heart and poisons it. That emotion, however, is not what it seems at all. Every time we feel stubborn fury we should not point our finger at someone else, we should point it at ourselves.
This doesn’t mean that the person who has caused this reaction is not responsible for hurting us. However, that person will deal with their actions, their karma and their self-awareness. What they will do to fix the consequences of their bad attitude is their own business, not ours. Our responsibility is to identify the feelings that their behaviour stirred in our soul: the weakness, the fear and our subconscious traumas, to bring them to the surface, look them in the eyes and let them go.
This is the only process that will set us free, let go of anger and move forward with a light heart. That kind of relief can only come from forgiving ourselves.